Message to the Editor:
My partner and I have been together for almost two years. Last May, she was in a bad motorcycle accident. That was one of the scariest moments of my life. If that wasn’t bad enough, I had to sit in the hospital room and claim that I was her sister because if they would have known I was her girlfriend, I wouldn’t have been allowed in the room. Even though I was the person she spent every waking moment with and shared her life with, I wasn’t considered worthy of being by her side in the hospital.
After that experience, we decided to get a legal domestic partnership. Even with that piece of paper, we were only considered partners in one city in Arizona. The state didn’t recognize gay marriage but, to me, Sally was my wife.
When I was in high school I came to visit Washington State and, ever since then, I have wanted to live here because I fell in love with the art culture and the beautiful scenery. Coming from 24 years of the desert, I didn’t mind the rain at all.
My partner Sally and I finally made the move and it just so happened to be around the same time gay marriage became legal in Washington. The feeling you get in knowing that your love is recognized, your happiness matters, and you can marry the person you want is an indescribable feeling.
I had always said, “ I don’t need a piece of paper to define my love” and, “Straight people ruin the real meaning of marriage so I don’t want to be a part of it.” Part of what I always said is true, but in life and death situations you deserve rights. If I am dying in a hospital, I should have the right to have the love of my life with me. There are reasons why marriage is necessary, and that’s why I am proud to now be living in a state where I can be legally bonded to whom my soul is bonded.
Love is love and when you go to bed at night no one is focused on whom their next-door neighbor loves because whom you choose to love doesn’t affect others. I am glad Washington State has legalized marriage and supports all homosexuals. The sense of freedom and happiness here is so much better than what I have known, and I only hope that one day Arizona and every other state will do the same for their people.
As for Sally and I, even though we already consider ourselves married, we will make it legal and have an actual wedding where we, too, can celebrate our amazing love.