We Shall Be Free

We Shall Be Free

- in Editorial
Charlene Strong

Washington State is poised to become the 7th state in the nation to grant same-sex marriage rights to its citizens. Now that Governor Gregoire has signed the bill into law, those supporting its passage are preparing for a contentious battle by those opposed to it. Those claiming to be on the right side of history seem to have very little regard for the damage their hateful and irresponsible words are inflicting upon thousands of families in Washington State, not to mention the millions of families watching us from around the world.

I had the occasion to testify for the Washington House Judiciary Committee before the marriage equality vote was to then to go to the House for the final passage.

The testimony of Pastor Ken Hutchinson of Antioch Bible Church in Redmond, Washington was by far the most egregious testimony that anyone should have had to endure, not to mention the fact that he was completely out of order toward Representative Peterson who chaired the committee. Had Rep. Peterson gaveled him down for his misconduct and being out of order, there would’ve been a backlash that Pastor Hutchinson was being censored and, dare I say, he knew that as well.

I grew up in New Orleans, Louisiana hearing offensive words that I knew at a very young age would break people.  I was ashamed of the struggle in our country some endured because of the color of their skin.  I witnessed the damage of bigotry and hatred that many were guilty of as well, but not all.

Civil rights history in America has left quite a scar on our country.  Pastor Hutchinson spoke at the Washington House Judiciary Committee as if every single white person in America was guilty of discrimination against him. He literally said, “The reason I played football was so that I could hurt white people.”  When asked in an interview recently about “my situation” when my wife died he said, “I know about her, and sin is sin”.

This is a moment where I am trying to understand the content of his character. This is the pastor of a church – a man who says he is on the right side of God. This is a man who shows no remorse for his bigotry and yet he sits and speaks with a self-important tone that only he knows what is right and wrong for others.

Self-reflection and growth are very powerful – if not an essential part – of a man’s life.  My own personal growth has come with my own reconciliation and re-evaluation of behaviors in my past and an understanding that sometimes we make decisions based on our surroundings and influences and not what we feel in our heart.  It is with soul-searching that we come to realize who we authentically are and sometimes results in awakenings and changes in our lives.

Martin Luther King, Jr. spoke of peace, forgiveness and equality.  He said, “An individual has not started living until he can rise above the narrow confines of his individualistic concerns to the broader concerns of all humanity”.  It was not just black men and women who walked hand-in-hand with him and fought for civil rights in this country; many white men and women sacrificed to work for the equality of black Americans. Why? Because they saw the damage of inequality and they knew they needed to stand shoulder-to-shoulder against those opposing change. They believed it was the right thing to do. They were on the right side of history.

The laws in the United States of America must be considered and altered when they no longer meet the needs of the citizens.  This is a moment where gay and lesbian people need to be heard.  It is ludicrous to think that our stories are not needed and are of no importance, as Pastor Hutchinson eludes. We humans need to hear of the harm, pain and conflict placed on the lives of others in order for us to truly have an understanding and apply the necessary changes to laws that affect our brothers and sisters.

When I chose to testify in 2006 regarding the death of my partner, I needed to be heard.  I needed to be understood.  I needed for someone to make sense of the insensible.  I did it for no other reason – not to get my name in the paper or to have anyone tell me that I was a hero.  I did it because I loved.  I did it because I shared a commitment with my spouse who gave me a beautiful 10 years of life.  I also knew that I was not alone and that many had suffered the indignities of the inequality I was facing.  I chose to speak simply for my late wife and myself and, in doing so, it had an effect I could’ve never imagined. My story of pain and loss helped change laws in Washington State that have since affected all of us…but I was just telling my story.

Being gay is not the new black – it is a civil rights issue.  The federal Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) defends no one, and only serves to discriminate and create hardship for millions of Americans.  It was originally put in place under pressure by the Republican right to yet again put a nail in the coffin of equality.

Standing in opposition to another group’s human rights fight is a painful reminder that perhaps we as a country have a very short memory span.  The destructive words and actions that deny another’s life, liberty and happiness is not the right side of history. As Malcolm X reflected, “Truth is on the side of the oppressed”.

And it is that truth that will speak of equality for all.



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  1. Geni A Bennetts

    Ms. Strong:

    No one could have more eloquently stated the heart of this matter than you have. I implore the citizens of Washington, to permit the appropriateness of this civil rights issue to stand as signed by your governor. As someone in California who married my partner of now 20 years during that small window in time when marriage was legalized, I cannot begin to tell you how the ups and downs of the Prop 8 trials have affected many of us. Our solice has been that other states have continued to champion marriage equality and that somehow on the other end of all of these skirmishes in court, we too will triumph for all of our friends and colleagues who did not marry in 2008. As has been stated many times, few civil rights issues would have prevailed had their legality been put to a popular vote!

    Thank you for your voice.

    From California

  2. There is no better way to honor love than by defending it. My partner and I are disabled. We can only say, “Thank you,” to all who go where we can’t and say what we need said. Ah, the pastor—he picks his passage to follow only if they support his PERSONAL beliefs. He needs to read more from Luke, who tells of the importance of not putting yourself above others.

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