Okay, so I took my dog Chloe (Border Collie Mix) to the doggie park last week. It was a beautiful sunny day. I also brought a friend along. Chloe’s dog walker showed up at the park with her eight dogs she was taking care of that day. Chloe was so excited to be with her friends and we had such a fun time.
Out of the blue and, rather bluntly, a guy sitting on a bench nearby asked me if I was there with my husband. I said no, and that I was there with a friend. I also informed him that I didn’t have a husband, and that I had a girlfriend that was at home. I thought the conversation was over at that point until he asked me if the dog walker (who is straight and married) was my girlfriend! I said” No!” He said it was a good thing because he knew her husband!
It sounded like a threat to me… and I couldn’t help but think to myself, “What an ignorant asshole!” He looked at me again up and down, and then said, “Oh, you’re not the woman I thought you were. I try not to look at women at the dog park unless they’re really hot.”
When I get harassed by anyone about being gay, I let the person know exactly how I feel about their insecurity with themselves. This experience just made me realize yet, one more time, that people like him are the fuel that make bullies. After I left, I felt very angry. I am writing this because I know people will get just a little taste of what gay people go through on a daily basis.
I want you, if you have ever had any experiences like the one I had, to write in and tell me about it. It will feel good to vent and know people are hearing what you have to say. The more we talk about it, the more aware people will become. Let’s stop the Bully Fuel.